It's June 7; thirteen days left for my Sagan and 21 days to the wedding.

While talking to my fiancee yesterday night I felt a bit disturbed perhaps for the first time due to her. She wanted to make a few things clear and be clear about a few things she has been able to understand.

The main thing was her being in job after marriage. I told her it's necessary. But she wanted to be sure if she would have to work despite pregnancy. Well, it was a bit too advance to think of it even before getting engaged. But I preferred being as realistic as i could. I told her it's not about being compelled to visit office in such a condition rather about keeping my mind clear that she will hve be get back to job after child birth as and when possible.

I told her it gets easy when you have persons at home to take care of child. Like,in our case, it's my mother. And, the job was needed to prevent her become a typical housewife, too much into others' news and less interested in the world her husband lives in.

I told her I hate talking on such topics and that's why never talk to family members until necessary. I have chosen her , an MBA by education girl, not to make her a typical Aunty by mind or talks. I told her my society belongs to the educated and the constructive minds instead of behejis and she would find her recogntion as someone into some constructive work. She said she 'understands' it's necessary for financial help and to be able to introduce her in my society.

I contracted her by saying no matter whether she was working or not or intelligent or not....she will be introduced by me and accepted by my friends or society with equal grace as my life partner. The job is required to keep her mind occupied with sth. constructive.

She is showing hesitation like a kid and acting as an school girl who wants to attend the school but want to confirm before joining it that she will neither be made to do homework (read household work) nor she will be objected to live as per the school's rules and regulations (read the new home's living style).

It is interesting that she has been reared under a mother who reprimands her and seeks explanation every now and then but still she expects maximum freedom at the new form. It looks she wants to have her way and that's why making many a things clear to me one by one at a time when i am in romantic mood.

Well, maybe she has found me a bit too easy to overwhelm.

I know it would have to her as a major disappointment when I said that I hoped she has heard workd partiachal way of life. I told her why I am talking to men , no woman is allowed to interfere in any way, just like I don't interfere in ladies' work.

She told me she never thought she would be in a joint family. I felt a little awkward but i smiled at her stupidity in saying so in front of a person who cannot digest the idea of living away from loved ones. By saying so , she showed she is just another average girl who doesn't wish to cherish living in family but an alienated life.


Frankly writing, I felt i am witnessing a hidden girl with her innermost scary wishes coming out one by one. Perhaps, she wanted a person who will fall in love with her and start obeying her out of love. It feels bad but I hope she will soon get the message this man is actually MAN enough to handle a girl and make her lead a responsible life instead of enjoy an everlasting honeymoon.