Aug.2, 2010

I am surprised at my surprise to notice what an individual of our family is doing to my married life. May be it is the timing which led to my surprise. It was Sunday morning when I took Pratibha to buy raincoats. As she was to start her official routine from Monday onwards, I decided to take her to Azad market and buy raincoat. On return journey, she requested me to take her to Ridge area, as she had heard a lot about it before marriage.

I find it quite nice demand, as it would also take me to a place full of greenary all around in a rainy weather. Both of us were soon in the ridge area of Delhi University. She enjoyed every moment as I felt she would.

As we entered Delhi University's Jawahar Vatika adjoined with teh universtiy ground, she revealed me something quite important. She took my promise not to reveal it anyone but to keep it all to myself. I 'promised'. She narrated how Bhabhi has been poisoning her mind by talking about our family and particularly me. She has been critical of me and blamed me for 'ill treating' her in the past. She mentioned a lot in praise of her husband and how 'happy' she was with her husband. The silly things like daily juices and 'very caring' approach of her husband for her were narrated in detail. She was critical of me and Chanchal, my widow sister, for ill treating her. And, she also mentioned that me and my elder brother, her husband, are actually very hard to deal with. She narrated that she had almost all the luxuries of the world and was thus very very happy. She said that her husband and herself were of the opinon that Sandeep has got a nice wife in Pratibha by chance and were surprised over it. She expressed her concern and tried to prick her for being a working woman and also a housewife. She said she should carry on working till she could manage and take care of her instead of what family or husband thinks.

Bhabhi told Pratibha that there is no more possibility of any new construction work or change taking place inside the house and she should forget all that from Sandeep's side. She mentioned that a lot of money has been spent on the marriage. And, that her husband has told her once that he has collected enough money to even take care of even Sandeep's children. Like a typical, mother in law, Bhabhi pulled her that she has been gifted with two jewellery sets from her mother's side and the in laws (Sandeep's family) could only gift her with one jewellery set. Bhabhi tried to provoke Pratibha's mind with all this knowing very well that Sandeep intends to keep her away from such stupid matters and lead a quality life.

Bhabhi knows it well that she is playing a trick to spoil my personal life, as she along with her four sisters have already done to first wife of her elder brother in Tilak Nagar.


I felt very pleased with my beloved wife for confiding in me and revealing all that to me. I narrated her how Bhabhi is trying to poison her new inning of married life. I told her she is playing her move of the chessboard. It's nothing but hardcore family politics where she intends to spoil my married life, just like she has done in her brother's life. I told her that it is nothing but because I rejected her niece whom she wanted to marry off with me. She wanted me to obey her diktats and let her live her own chosen way. She wanted maximum freedom to roam around without any family restrictions and set her own rules. Bhaiya has been a poor guy in all this as he doesn't have the guts to control her. I believe she is taking advantage of his some 'big' weak point that she may have observed recently. She is jealous like her husband (my brother) and suffering from inferiority complex for a long time from me. And, everything is being done to create differences and unsettle my life.

But I couldn't tell her that Bhabhi's both brothers have a seriously troubled life with the eldest one facing complaints from her second wife before crime against women cell. He has been booked for beating his wife with iron rods.

Off and on Bhabhi complains to us that Bhaiya wants dowry! And how laughable matter this is because Bhaiya has amassed so much money from his textile business that he can purchase his family not just once but five times. We chose her from a poor family and accepted her with grace but now she is showing her true colours after 10 years of marriage.

She wants my room at the ground floor for her children's study room. It is demand to actually make me vacate a room so that she could enjoy full rule at the ground floor without hindrance or being inspected by anyoen. And, I AM DETERMINED NOT TO LET HER DO SO AT ANY COST!

The biggest joy is me and my wife are realising her intentions and turning extra careful about her designing character. Bhabhi is doing a hara-kiri, a Japanese way of suicide. She is all set to lose entire family's affection. I just want my wife to win hearts of my family, as she will not have to compete with anyone for being more considerate. All she has to do is to be a bit more careful in her words and develop an affectionate approach.

Regards
Chaudhary Sandeep Datta