By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher...and that is a good thing for any man.” : Socrates quotes (Ancient Greek Philosopher, 470 BC-399 BC)
It is quite distressing to notice my wife having turned so much money-minded and over critical of me that I have started losing interest in her presence in my life.
Her over-mouthing, loud-mouthing and ill-mouthing has turned me off. She seems to be building her support group while tarnishing my reputation in my family among my loved ones. She wants me to earn for our future but keeps putting more and more demands for new things. Her sarcastic way of putting her demands or getting things done is only taking her to the end of her married life at least with me.
Pratibha's fascination towards everything new or the attitude of replacing everything older at my home with new are very irritating. She wants to change everything as per her desire.
The most tragic thing is she is going all around stating "Khud kama rahi hoon, khud kha rahin hoon" . Her frequency of cribbing about me or the existing circustances is being noticed by each of my family member. And, she is soon going to be in serious trouble. The kind of positive image she managed to build with my open admiration of her abilities or nature, she has started ruining it all quite fastly.
She is getting tips and using them stupidly in our house. It was shocking to learn how she once told one of my family members that her mother has asked her to keep me, her husband, under her feet!
Pratibha has started throwing tantrums and cribbing. She thinks now everyone loves her so much that she would be supported despite everything.
She knows it very well how she has betrayed me. She is gaining an image of being a 'Be-imaan' girl in my eyes. Her deafness is something that will keep on pushing me away from her. She doesn't understand she is losing her image before me and family with each passing day.
She thinks by getting a child from her married life despite avoiding treatment for deafness and by leaving her job, she acted quite smartly. She doesn't know what's coming her way and that too suddenly.
I wonder how this same woman ran from pillar to post for seeing a doctor for pregnancy checkup but never found any doctor to get herself treated for deafness. I wish she knew this guy knows it all and just observing her every moment of her life.
I had placed her in a position where everyone would like her instead of Rekha bhabhi but Pratibha seems to have resolved to suffer a shocking future full of solitude and hatred.
Her approach of comparing facilities being available to her (within her husband's means) with the kind of facilities being available to her elder sister and friend pooja or cousin is ruining her personal life. She is turning impossible with each passing day and in her expectations.
Be it the demand for car, my new job, more money, comparison with my brother’s luxurious life, irritation from my simple dressing style, hatred from my journalistic career, shift system, wish of removing my painting from drawing room, breaking of my office’ precious gift, consistent demand of opening her juicers or other things, demanding to take charge of my life and bank and all other things—are only making her spoil her personal image or value in my life.
Her leaking of even talks related to our sexual life to her mother showed her level of stupidity to the maximum limit. Recently, on the day of completing our day of engagement she wished me and completed her sentence saying : “Kahin muh mat marna” are some of the examples that have made me lose trust and interest in her.
She is going to burn her married life by own hands.
Keeping her politics, criticism, illogical demands, careless attitude at home, comparisons with others' lives, and reporting to mother or others related to her will compell me shift my interest from her to other things, perhaps other individuals. It would be tragic to find our child taking birth in such an environment under such a stupid and dishonest mother's care.
It is quite disturbing and strange as well to see how she always without exception fails to understand my acts of affection or love. If I buy her anything, she would thing it is my duty.
If I take her out, she would feel I would have some purpose behind it. If I listen to her with patience for a few days, she would take me for granted and use foul or illiterate people's vocabulary with me. If I inform her that I would be coming late, she would say 'certainly you would be dating someone'. If I tell her to be careful so that nobody could expose her for her mistakes, she would ignore it as silly suggestion. If I taken her out for movie or at any place, she would start comparing in her mind or even blurt it out to me how her friend or relative's husband take care of their wives. If I ask her to work and turn intelligent and be prepared as an up to date lady in my social circles, she would think I am trying to push her to work for 'her fucking money'.
I just pray her so called advisers soon realise that they are teaching her all those things which she is applying wrongly and stupidly. And, second thing is her husband is observing her every clever move and demand and words now with suspicion! And, very soon she could be with them forever with such over smart approach with her own husband who simply wishes her to turn a better non-selfish and nice human being.
One serious thing she is forgetting in her mind is that if this person can love her, he can very well leave her forever. And, she will have only herself to blame for this disaster in her married life. I fear that time is coming quite fast in her life due to her 'well wishers' and her personal over smartness in personal life.
Regards
Chaudhary Sandeep Datta
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