One month of my marriage....

On July 28, I completed one month of my marriage and living together with my better half Pratibha. Thankfully, by the grace of God, it was Ok with her.

She has been affectionate, careworn and loving all these days. The honeymoon is actually a superb thing, I realised it after spending a week with her. Most of the experienced people would tell skipping this most awaited period of married life can prove disastrous to carry on with any woman who has married you. I didn't take much time and planned it very carefully. It was planned quite minutely to avoid any major discomfort. Many experienced individuals and local natives' personal advise was sought to keep it a smooth and joyful journey.

I remained quite focussed to keep it blunder-free, the errors were acceptable. I was quite focussed to 'what' next' throughout the trip and hence enjoyed only after reaching at any place. My concern remained her saftey and comfort. She thought I was not showing involvement. But I knew my mental occupation with work to do was vital and her expectations were natural 'wishes' of a newly married girl.

Both of us kept observing each other in real way. I felt she was intelligent enough to observe me broadly. My moody-self and short temperament was something I wanted her to witness besides the romantic person in me. I also showed her my tastes as a nature lover, photographer and religious person. I believe she noticed that her husband could actually take care of her and was equally religious-minded as she is. She liked my religious side of personality.

However, more than anything we got a big chance to know each other and introduce each other by our nature to an extent. I presented myself as a moody and angry man who would object to everything going off the plan or basic mannerism or respect of a husband. She took me as a boy friend whom she could talk the way she wanted to. I made her clear, this is 'HUSBAND'. I felt it was needed to keep things going off limits in next few days after returning home.

I found her caring but quite casual in many things. She looked to be a child brought up with a bit too much 'don't worry' approach. I tried to make her feel that she needed to be quite attentive and hold responsibility about what happens due to what she does casually. For instance, her taking too much time to be ready irritated me the most.

However, these days I am struggling to make her bring some changes in her way of life, as she begins her actual life with a person of my tastes and lifestyle. At times she raises her tone and I have to silence her a bit harshly. Her obession for Air Conditioned environment and dream to CHANGE me has faded.

But God knows that I am trying to apprise her of all possible mistakes or silly acts that may make her become a laughing stock in our family or my social circle. Being aware of what is required in our family or social circle, it is my duty to keep her alarmed about every act.

At times, Pratibha understands. But most of the time she is arguing with me without even listening to me completely. I have found her carrying a baggage of negative experience as lived by others in the past at her parents' side.

She has a bad habit of interrupting in mid-way and hence faces my tough talk. She has a number of strange habits and thus faces my flak.

Like most of the time, even during honeymoon, I told her not to use "Tu" for me, as I was not any junior friends of hers or boy friend. She is yet to overcome her this habit. Many a times I have asked her not to express her care as if I am a school kid seeking mummy's feed or care. I have conveyed her to just control her behavior from looking stupidly caring towards me. Her slightly deafness has shocked me and I want it to be treated immediately. I just fear it should not be permanent or a fact kept secret from me. Had the latter fact proved a truth, I would feel Cheated.

Her high pitch in talking to me or talking back to me is something I find quite disturbing and will make her mend herself. Unfortunately, almost everyday she has to face my rough side,But I am also trying to be tolerant and adjustable to a new person and her strangeness in attitude. I was shocked to see today that an MBA by education person would avoid reading even one news in the newspaper and would cling it for 'horoscope' or bollywood gossip age, known as Page 3.

Frankly, I felt I have got somebody with very ordinary intellectual tastes. I hope she will understand value of my tastes and at least give me my space to carry on with them without getting 'shocked' or 'ignorant' of its significane in an inquisitive journalist's life.